Final Thought for 2009...

When reflecting back on this year, ask yourself did you achieve your desired results. If not do not be afraid of change! Rewrite the vision, make it plain and then TAKE ACTION! It's time to get rid of the negative people in your life and go for it...after all don't you deserve the best? Best wishes to you!

E.G.O. Word:

Philippians 3:13-14 (King James Version)

13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,

14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.


E.G.O. Quote:

"Destiny is not a matter of chance, but of choice. Not something to wish for but to attain." – William Jennings Bryan



Start believing in yourself because I already do!

Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed.
But when we are silent, we are still afraid.
So it is better to speak.

~ Audre Lorde ~

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

1 John 4:8 (New International Version)

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

Remove those 'I want you to like me' stickers from your forehead
and, instead, place them where they truly will do the most good --
on your mirror!

~ Susan Jeffers

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Micah 7:18 (New International Version)

18 Who is a God like you,
who pardons sin and forgives the transgression
of the remnant of his inheritance?
You do not stay angry forever
but delight to show mercy.




Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

We were given: Two hands to hold. To legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find.

Unknown


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Proverbs 13:22 (New International Version)

A good man leaves an inheritance for his children's children, but a sinner's wealth is stored up for the righteous.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

If you do not tell the truth about yourself
you cannot tell it about other people.

~ Virginia Woolf ~

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Proverbs 5:21 (The Message)

Mark well that God doesn't miss a move you make; he's aware of every step you take.


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

Often people attempt to live their lives backwards:
they try to have more things, or more money,
in order to do more of what they want so they will be happier.
The way it actually works is the reverse.
You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do,
in order to have what you want.

~ Margaret Young ~

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Proverbs 4:12 (Amplified Bible)

When you walk, your steps shall not be hampered [your path will be clear and open]; and when you run, you shall not stumble.


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly,
what is essential is invisible to the eye.

~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry ~

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Proverbs 3:27-28 (New International Version)

27 Do not withhold good from those who deserve it,
when it is in your power to act.

28 Do not say to your neighbor,
"Come back later; I'll give it tomorrow"—
when you now have it with you.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

When I Say, "I am a Christian"

When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not shouting, "I've been saved!"
I'm whispering, "I get lost! That's why I chose this way"

When I say, "I am a Christian," I don't speak with human pride
I'm confessing that I stumble-needing God to be my guide

When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not trying to be strong
I'm professing that I'm weak and pray for strength to carry on

When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not bragging of success
I'm admitting that I've failed and cannot ever pay the debt

When I say, "I am a Christian," I don't think I know it all
I submit to my confusion asking humbly to be taught

When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not claiming to be perfect
My flaws are far too visible but God believes I'm worth it

When I say, "I am a Christian," I still feel the sting of pain
I have my share of heartache which is why I seek His name

When I say, "I am a Christian," I do not wish to judge
I have no authority--I only know I'm loved


Copyright 1988 Carol Wimmer



Start believing in yourself because I already do!


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

If you look at what you have in life,
You'll always have more.
If you look at what you don't have in life,
You'll never have enough.

~ Oprah Winfrey ~

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Proverbs 2:1-6 (New International Version)

Moral Benefits of Wisdom

1 My son, if you accept my words
and store up my commands within you,
2 turning your ear to wisdom
and applying your heart to understanding,

3 and if you call out for insight
and cry aloud for understanding,

4 and if you look for it as for silver
and search for it as for hidden treasure,

5 then you will understand the fear of the LORD
and find the knowledge of God.

6 For the LORD gives wisdom,
and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

Start Living...

Everyday I encounter individuals who profess the love they have for God and that is all-good. However, individuals has also express to me they have no life outside of God and that is a concern of mine. I remember when I would spend eight plus hours a day in my room just God and me. In that season, God had called me before Him and needed my undivided attention but He still wanted me to live!

I totally had shut out the world, it was just me, and God but you know what God told me? He said, “Sonja go out and start living, no one can see my light behind four walls.”

I started thinking, He is right. What is the point of getting all that wisdom and power and stay hiding behind four walls? Some may not agree but that is exactly what people do everyday.

My question to you is why are you hiding? Do you not trust what God has instilled in you enough to go out and start living? Do you trust yourself? In this world full of darkness and hopelessness, our light is needed to shine brightly.

God is love and created this beautiful world; just look around you and see the natural beauty on this earth. He doesn't wants us to become religious and hide behind the religion but to enjoy every aspect of life...so get out and have fun. If you believe in God but feel as if you have no life, maybe it is time to check your "religious" walk! Let His light shine before men...yes not only at church but also at the bowling alley, movies, grocery store, mall, etc.

Bottom Line: Keep God #1 and enjoy life! With that being said, start living and show those who are lost that you can have fun and a relationship with God.



Start believing in yourself because I already do!

Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
-Unknown Author


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Proverbs 1:7 (King James Version)

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.




Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

He Still Wants To Use You...

As I was sitting here praising and worshipping our Heavenly Father on this beautiful December morning, this message dropped in my spirit to share. The enemy is attempting to plant seeds of negativity that our Father who art in Heaven does not want to use you for His Kingdom. The enemy is attempting to place seeds of doubt into the minds of God’s chosen vessels because of their past.

Our Father wants you to know on this day, that you are still needed. Now hear me and hear me clearly, you is referring to His children. Yes those who have come into the knowledge of truth and for what every reason is still in bondage to some sin. Even as believers you will fall sometime but it is not to keep you down.

God is drawing you closer to Him. God is showing you the areas of your life that you are weak in, those areas that will hinder your work in His Kingdom. Do not beat yourself up and allow the enemy to trick you! God still wants to use you…yes YOU! When you are weak, He will make you strong. Confess that sin to God whatever it is big or small and let Him take you through the process of healing and restoration.

Yes, this walk is a process! Yes He will have to mend hearts, knee scrapes, broken bones and even have to go in and do major surgery depending on how deep the pain is. Do not let your wounds become infected by the enemy deception and cause your entire system to be poisoned.

Do not be ashamed any longer of your past! Do not let the spirit of guilt keep you down. Everyone has a dark past and if they say they do not, those people are liar’s bottom line.

Would you believe I use to be heavily involved in cybersex? Photos plaster of me not only in the United States but in other countries as well. Yes, I am not talking about when I still was a sinner living in the world, no I am talking about when I had already accepted Christ into my life, heavily involved in church!

I had a relationship with God and still was in heavy bondage. That is not half of my story; it will literally blow your mind! Am I ashamed of my past…NO! Am I afraid someone from my past will post those horrible pictures on the internet…NO!

Why? For starters, my life is an open book; I do not live my life in fear, shame, or guilt. If I did, I would not be able to share with you my story. I am a child of the Most High and those pictures, videos, etc are a representation of the old me. Yes, the woman who did not see her self worth, who only thought the way to love was lying on her back or performing some other sexual act.

If my Father who is creator of Heaven and Earth can tell me daughter I forgive you, no harm shall come to you, then why would I be ashamed of it. It is a done deal, but many “religious” folks hide behind the religion and that is why folks are in bondage.

I’m sent during this time to empower you, to assist you to arise so you may be in position to be used to set the captives free. I do not care how ugly your past is, YOU ARE CHOSEN! YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH! YOU ARE JOINT HEIRS WITH CHRIST! YOU ARE MY SISTER AND WILL NOT BE LEFT BEHIND!

Yes, I will talk about issues that most “churches” still refuse to address…so get ready get ready! I have stayed quiet for too long about the darkness that still surrounds God’s original masterpieces and the time has arrived…the time is NOW!

Let our Heavenly Father turn you test into a TESTIMONY, your mess into a MESSAGE, so you may be used as a MESSAGENGER to set the captives free finally.

Remember our Father wants to use you! Yes you, so what are you waiting for…get in His presence TODAY!

E.G.O. Affirmation: I am the apple of my Father’s eye and He has chosen to use me to set the captives free!



Start believing in yourself because I already do!

Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Meditate on this enitire chapter morning and night for the next three days.

Isaiah 61 (New International Version)

Isaiah 61

The Year of the LORD's Favor

1 The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me,
because the LORD has anointed me
to preach good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim freedom for the captives
and release from darkness for the prisoners, [a]
2 to proclaim the year of the LORD's favor
and the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn,

3 and provide for those who grieve in Zion—
to bestow on them a crown of beauty
instead of ashes,
the oil of gladness
instead of mourning,
and a garment of praise
instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called oaks of righteousness,
a planting of the LORD
for the display of his splendor.

4 They will rebuild the ancient ruins
and restore the places long devastated;
they will renew the ruined cities
that have been devastated for generations.

5 Aliens will shepherd your flocks;
foreigners will work your fields and vineyards.

6 And you will be called priests of the LORD,
you will be named ministers of our God.
You will feed on the wealth of nations,
and in their riches you will boast.

7 Instead of their shame
my people will receive a double portion,
and instead of disgrace
they will rejoice in their inheritance;
and so they will inherit a double portion in their land,
and everlasting joy will be theirs.

8 "For I, the LORD, love justice;
I hate robbery and iniquity.
In my faithfulness I will reward them
and make an everlasting covenant with them.

9 Their descendants will be known among the nations
and their offspring among the peoples.
All who see them will acknowledge
that they are a people the LORD has blessed."

10 I delight greatly in the LORD;
my soul rejoices in my God.
For he has clothed me with garments of salvation
and arrayed me in a robe of righteousness,
as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest,
and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.

11 For as the soil makes the sprout come up
and a garden causes seeds to grow,
so the Sovereign LORD will make righteousness and praise
spring up before all nations.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

Just don't give up trying to do what you really want to do.
Where there is love and inspiration, I don't think you can go wrong.

~ Ella Fitzgerald ~


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

Rejoice...

Rejoice:
- to be glad; take delight
- to make joyful; gladden


I have noticed two things about the winter months: 1) it tends to bring out the goodness in others and 2) the spirit of depression floods many lives.

I am here to tell you, it is time to shake yourself! I mean stand up and really start shaking, twisting, clapping and stomping the negative out of your life. Today is a new day rejoice! No sadness, no what ifs, no woulda, shoulda, coulda moments. No more crying over spilled milk or that loser that never apologized for all the lies, cheating and stealing. Do not give them the victory any longer!

GET IN POSITION AND REJOICE!

This is your day to live life to the fullest. If you or I allow anyone to steal our joy, shame on us. Just as the definition states, we need to be glad, take delight in what is around us.

Ask yourself: What brings joy to my life?

Now rejoice in it! Rejoice in the fact that you woke up this morning. Rejoice in the fact you have running water whether hot or cold. If you are single and that spirit of loneliness starts harassing you, begin rejoicing that you are not in bondage to some toxic relationship.

My point is let us begin challenging ourselves more to focus on the positive, seeing the good in every situation that the enemy tries to use for bad.

This day can never be duplicated, the time can never be preserved so use it rejoicing and laughing in the face of adversity. Happy Rejoicing!



Start believing in yourself because I already do!


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

Look at everything as though you were
seeing it either for the first or last time.
Then your time on earth will be filled with glory.

~ Betty Smith ~


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Nehemiah 4:14 (New International Version)

14 After I looked things over, I stood up and said to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people, "Don't be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes."



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

Secret Torment...

Head spinning round and round
Tears trickling down my face
Heartbeat increases, temperature rises
Feeling as though I barely can breathe
Searching with my mind’s eye for a glimmer of hope
Lurking behind bushes trying to catch an ounce of peace
To my surprise none found
Running but do not know from what or what race
The light to my tunnel pushes itself farther away
Seeking but cannot find
Screaming out for help but no sound come from my mouth
Hungry in search of food, anorexic in the worst way…spiritually
One voice trying to be heard in such a self absorbed noisy world
Knocking but no door is opening
In the middle of the desert waiting for rain to come
Standing by the seashore but no ship has arrived
Attempt to walk on water but continues sinking
Waiting to take my last breath but never die
Hello, out there can anyone hear me?
What is this I finally hear in the distance? A horn
Maybe my ship has finally arrived…
What is this I finally see?
Maybe the light at the end of my tunnel is finally shining…
Awaken by sunlight, alarm buzzing loudly
Today is a new day to run the race, to increase faith
For this is not the time to give in…
For this could be the day for the nightmare to end

Sonja S.

Sounds familiar? Know someone who has experienced this? I was awaken in the middle of the night with such a heavy heart. So I do what I do best, just write what’s in my heart to reach the people. Many of you are suffering from this tormenting nightmare of being in a hopeless situation. Maybe you lost a job, maybe you have no food, no car, or have found yourself in the midst of some other storm.

Whatever the case may be this torment cycle has to be broken! Everyday is a new day to continue running the race of faith, finding a way to take one small action step towards your goal. Change is coming but one will ever see the change if they throw in the towel.

Keep digging deep; keep pushing until your new beginning is birth out. Once birthed out, do not stop there but keep soaring higher and higher!

E.G.O. Thought: What one action step will you take today to begin creating a better tomorrow, turning your negative into a positive?

Start believing in yourself because I already do!




Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

Cut not the wings of your dreams,
for they are the heartbeat and the freedom of your soul.

~ Flavia ~


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E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Psalm 92:12-14 (New International Version)

12 The righteous will flourish like a palm tree,
they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon;

13 planted in the house of the LORD,
they will flourish in the courts of our God.

14 They will still bear fruit in old age,
they will stay fresh and green



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

Jump Start Your Spring Cleaning...

I absolutely love spring time! You hear the birds chirping, beautiful flowers blooming and most stop singing the blues from a gloomy winter.

Spring time is also when most people Spring Clean. Spring cleaning in a nutshell is a thorough cleaning. Do you know one of the biggest challenges of spring cleaning? Getting rid of all that junk you do not need!

The same holds true with our spirit (Wo)Man. It’s time for a spiritual cleansing. When you allow God to cleanse your insides, your spirit feels renewed. You have a new zeal, you can breathe easier, think better, love easier, heck even you walk different. Allow God to spring clean you this winter and let this be your true new beginnings.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

A woman is the full circle.
Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.

~ Diane Mariechild ~

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Isaiah 61:7 (New International Version)

7 Instead of their shame
my people will receive a double portion,
and instead of disgrace
they will rejoice in their inheritance;
and so they will inherit a double portion in their land,
and everlasting joy will be theirs.




Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

PRESS!

Hello my beautiful sisters! I know you are so use to me writing long articles but today it was placed in my heart to share one word with you: PRESS!

If you can't remember anything else I have ever shared remember this one word: PRESS!

Your situation will get better! You will succeed! You will prosper!

But you must PRESS.

PRESS your way during those difficult times. Keep PRESSING your way when all hope seems lost. Keep PRESSING even with tears in your eyes.

You were not created to give up.

You my sisters are created for purpose!


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

It's not what you call me, but what I answer to.

~ African proverb ~



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Psalm 23:5 (King James Version)

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

When You Are Thrown In The Fire

We all at one point have found ourselves in the midst of a chaotic situation and wonder why. Or maybe you have said to yourself, my faith is up and I am still getting hit from the North, South, East and West.

When you find yourself in an unexpected situation where all odds seem against you, that is what I call getting thrown in the fire. Have you ever just stop to think that God purposely threw you in the fire or to simplify things, placed you right in the center of a particular situation?

To help better understand this, remember the story in the Bible about Daniel in the Lions' Den (Daniel Ch 6)? Daniel was an uncompromising man of God. Even though he did no wrong he was plotted against. See you never know who is watching you, trying to dissect your strong and weak points. The men who plotted against Daniel could find no wrong with him or in him, but they knew that he loved God and had unshakeable faith.

These men thought they had mastered the perfect plan to get rid of Daniel by convincing the King (who was very fond of him and didn't know about the plot against Daniel), to establish a royal statute; that whoever shall ask a petition of any God or man except the King, they shall be cast in the Lions' Den (vs 7).

Do you think that stopped Daniel? No, remember he was an uncompromising man of God. Even though he knew the consequences, he continues to pray to God, which caused him to be thrown in the lions' den. If you are familiar with the story, you know that God allowed no harm to come to Daniel. Why? Because he did no wrong and because of this the King made a new decree that stated that men in his kingdom shall tremble and fear before the God of Daniel vs 26). See how wonderful God is even when you are thrown in the fire.

I feel as though a person is thrown in the fire for 4 reasons:



1) It forces you to confront challenges

2) God does it for His glorification

3) God does it so people can be a witness to His marvelous works

4) Allows you to solely depend on Him, which in return draws you closer to Him.

Remember when thrown in the fire, continue to trust and believe God will pull you out unharmed.




Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Psalm 28:7 (King James Version)

The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him.


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

“Freedom lies in being bold.”
—Robert Frost



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1 Built In Stress Reliever...3 Great Benefits

Let's face it we all have experience stress right? I mean how can you totally rid yourself of it: taking care of the kids, spouse, finances, household, work, volunteer work, running a business, planning events and the list goes on! Too much of anything can lead you quickly to a meltdown.

Even though we have various roles as women we must take care of our health and well being first and foremost. Today I will share a tip to relieve stress and renew your mind. Enjoy!


Laughter. Now I know you are like what this is common sense. But do you know laughter has built in health benefits? It's true, laughter increase the amount of antibody- producing cells and decreases the level of stress hormones. We all know that when our stress levels are reduced, it means having a stronger immune system for you!

Other Benefits:

~Good laugh=Good workout of your heart (most important muscle in your body)

~ What was I mad about again? Laughter brings the focus away from the negative situation and allows you to have a release of those negative emotions.

~Great tool for relaxation




Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Others stay awhile, make footprints on our hearts and we are never, ever the same.

Anonymous



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The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Proverbs 31:30 (King James Version)

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

To Achieve Your Dreams...

I love these words of encouragement my little angels across the world send my way! I am now passing them on to you so you may stay empowered...enjoy!


To Achieve Your Dreams Remember Your ABC's

Avoid negative sources,people,places,things and habits
Believe in yourself, then others will believe in YOU
Consider things from every angle
Don't give up and don't give in
Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come
Family and friends are hidden treasures, seek them and enjoy their riches
Give more than you plan to (especially LOVE)
Hang on to your dreams and don't let go no matter what comes your way to discourage you
Ignore those who try to discourage you
Just ask yourself What will Jesus do?
Keep trying no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier
Love yourself first so that you may love others whole heartly
Make it happen, surround yourself with positive people
Never lie,cheat,or steal,always strike a fair deal
Open your eyes and see things as they really are
Put God first and everything will fall in place
Quitters never win and winner never quit
Read study and learn about everything important in your life (Especially your BIBLE)
Stop procastinating and start motivating yourself
Take control of your own destiny
Understand yourself in order to better understand others
Visualize it and then do whatever you need to do to make your dreams come true
Want it more than anything
Xcellerate your efforts
You are unique of all God's creation, nothing can replace you
Zero in on your target and go for it!

Source Unknown



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

You may be disappointed if you fail,
but you are doomed if you don't try.

~ Beverly Sills ~







Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (New International Version)

9 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their work:

10 If one falls down,
his friend can help him up.
But pity the man who falls
and has no one to help him up!


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

"Mr. No Good"...

Hello to all my beautiful sisters! Today as I was wondering what to write about, it dawned on me that there are too many women out in the world that is still suffering with being unhappy when they do not have to. Week after week, I hear from women who are in toxic relationships with men that are simply no good. I mean these men need deliverance and my precious sisters believe that they have what it takes to “change” them.

Around this time of year, the spirit of loneliness hits many individuals and just because it is the holiday, a woman will tend to "hold on" to that relationship that has been dead for years. Most are so blinded they cannot see that something better awaits. I believe the old saying goes having something is better than not having anything at all.

I believe this is a great time to warn that I give tough love but it is out of love and respect for you.

That saying is not true. I rather be by myself than hold on to a piece of something who I am allowing to stress me out, have me up at night crying unnecessary tears, chasing behind him because he is constantly cheating on me, being his personal punching bag...need I go on?

2010 is quickly approaching and it is time to make some decisions so you can move forward with your life. It is time to get fed up and not settle anymore. We all deserve the best life has to offer. As you can see, I am so passionate about this because a woman needs to see her worth, her beauty, her rareness.

We can toss and turn at night thinking of excuses as to why we need to stay in a relationship that is killing us from the inside out. But what good will it do in the end to stay with a man who is showing through his actions and/or words, he could care less? What good does it do to stay with one until the holidays are over, even though he is robbing you blind?

Take it from someone who has lost it all behind a man who whispered "sweet nothings" in her ear. It is not worth the heartache, pain, frustration, money; time, energy or other sacrifices that were made! A woman cannot change a man. A man cannot change a woman. Only God has the power to change. That man has to choose for change to occur.

Underneath that person can be a great husband, a best friend...someday. But if that someday hasn't arrived yet then why keep tormenting yourself. Remember only you know when you have had enough. What price are you willing to pay by holding on to his empty promises? Let go and let God. Ask God to give you directions as to what your next step is. Remember God will give answers through various avenues so ask Him to be your “visine” and make your vision clear.

Here is a poem I wrote a while back once I had reached my breaking point. Can someone relate?


"Mr. No Good"

He say he love you but he really don’t
All he do is take your money and leave you for broke
While you’re at home with the kids
He’s out with some chick but call you and say he’s just chillin’ with his friends
He want you to pay the house rent
But sorry "Mr.No Good" got you bent
He said he would be there forever, for all eternity
But sorry "Mr. No Good" think you’re stupid, just telling you what he think you want to hear
But little does he know you’re fed up and getting rid of his butt before the end of the year
So for you sorry "Mr. No Good’s" heed a sista’s warning
Before your new home be on your mama couch by morning.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

People are like stained-glass windows.
They sparkle and shine when the sun is out,
but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed
only if there is a light from within.

~ Elizabeth Kübler-Ross ~



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Proverbs 10:12 (New International Version)

12 Hatred stirs up dissension,
but love covers over all wrongs.


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

Words of Encouragement...

Have you ever had that feeling that people like hearing that you’re lonely? That people want you to hurt? That people like hearing that you are disappointed in yourself? It’s sad but true, because when things are going great in your life and you’re not that broken vessel people are use to seeing, some but not all may begin to treat you differently.

I know for many people this is their year for great things to happen so I want to give you some encouraging words. Whatever it is, you must stay strong. You must believe in the vision God has given to you. Continue to have courage and walk thru that fear. When God is taking you higher, you must let go of "excess baggage" whether it’s depression, an addiction, relationship problems, work or financial related issues.

You may not understand it at that time, but it is not for you to, but instead follows that voice that lives inside. In life sometime you have to walk alone. In my personal life, for years I walked alone, never understanding why I can’t be like "everyone else". Always feeling like the "odd ball".

I look back on some of my heartache and pain and have come to the conclusion that I just wanted to be like "everyone else" causing me years of unnecessary woes. So I made stupid mistakes, but yes learned from them. The lesson I learned was simple, it was never a part of God’s plan for me to be a "face" in the crowd. It was meant for me to standout, to be the "odd ball", yes a leader.

So I tell you today my friends, don’t question why is this happening to me ever again? Never hide behind the mask again. Know that you are special; yes a "Rare jewel". Surround yourself with positive people. Remember if a person has something negative to say every time you’re around them or when sharing your goals and dreams then guess what? YOU DON’T NEED THEM.

It sounds harsh but people will try to keep you in their life for their own selfish reasons. Also remember that some people are only put in your life for a season so don’t holdup your "process" by trying to keep them in your life for a lifetime. Don’t wait for someone to build you up, speak great things over your own life.

Everyday I look in the mirror and say “I am beautiful and God made no mistakes on me...Okay!! Then throughout the day I think of things I am good at and speak it. Yes it seems strange at first because you are not use to complimenting yourself but everyday it gets easier until one day you believe what you are speaking. Bottom line you must believe in yourself, don’t be afraid to take chances in this life and its okay to take the road less traveled.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

The most common way people give up their power
is by thinking they don't have any.

~ Alice Walker ~



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Romans 8:35-37 (New International Version)

35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?

36 As it is written:
"For your sake we face death all day long;
we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered."

[a] 37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

I Asked For...

One of my friends gave this to me a longtime ago, that someone sent via email and I will pass this on .....

I asked for strength and God gave me difficulties to make me strong.

I asked for wisdom and God gave me problems to solve.

I asked for prosperity and God gave me brawn and brain to work.

I asked for courage and God gave me dangers to overcome.

I asked for patience and God placed me in situations where I was force to wait.

I asked for love and God gave me troubled people to help.

I asked for favors and God gave me opportunities.

I received nothing I wanted.

I received everything I needed.

MY PRAYERS HAVE BEEN ANSWERED.

Source Unknown


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Lamentations 3:39-40 (New International Version)

39 Why should any living man complain
when punished for his sins?

40 Let us examine our ways and test them,
and let us return to the LORD.


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

"Kiss slowly, love deeply, forgive quickly. Life is too short for you to be dissappointed any longer."

Source Unknown

Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

The Door Is Open…Now Walk Through It

Why do you keep reliving moments in time that have already passed? Why do you allow the pain from your past to force you back in your comfort zone? Why are you afraid of moving forward? Will not you allow me to take you higher?

God asked these questions while I sat in His presence. I honestly did not know what He was talking about, so I asked Him to show me. Have you ever experienced such pain that even when it is gone, you find a way unintentionally to keep it there? Most know about the pain I experienced from my childhood but there is so much more to my story.

God has equipped me to heal those women with a broken heart, to help those women who cannot see their own worth but also those women who faced rejection by the church and played the role of being the other woman for years. Each woman mentioned above story is unique in its own way and there are labels individuals automatically place on those women. Some are good, some are bad, but all these women have one thing in common.

The common factor is me.

At one point in my life, I represented each of those women. Some of the choices I made brought on a lot of pain, guilt, and shame. When God gave me my purpose a few years ago to empower women, I thought ‘what are people going to think when they hear my story?’ See I had no choice but to face my personal demons.

Fast forward to present day, I am living out my dreams and God is quickly taking me higher. Have you ever felt that the blessings were coming in so fast that you wanted to run back to your comfort zone? This may sound strange but it is common. Have you ever entertained reasons for not moving forward? Well maybe I am the only one but my friends our Heavenly Father informed me that is still a form of living in fear.

See we need to get to the root of everything God shows us so nothing will stand in our way of blessings pouring in. Most will not share as God is transitioning them but I do not want anyone to just see the end results but see my journey (what it took to get me there).

Most women feel like they are going through life and their problems alone but I want to grow through life and help that woman see the solutions not the illusion.

God showed me simply I still had residue of the fear of success. I confess to Him my reasons for having that fear, which is simply what if I cannot handle all that you are showing me since the vision is so big.

If anyone out there is trying to fight running back to your comfort zone, do not look back. Your comfort zone is a self-made prison that will keep you in bondage. Remember the spirit of fear is not of God!

I will tell you exactly what God said to me: Is anything too hard for your Father who art in Heaven? Do not be afraid for no harm will come to you. What is impossible to you is possible through me. I have made you self sufficient through Christ sufficiency. The door is already opened…now walk through it.



I pray by me sharing my journey it has encouraged you to walk through your open door.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Proverbs 4:5 (New International Version)

Get wisdom, get understanding; do not forget my words or swerve from them.


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud
was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.

~ Anais Nin ~


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

Healing Food For Thought...

This was sent to me yesterday by Nora Kandile. I thought this was very empowering...enjoy!




The key to healing
is your power to choose.

The work of healing
is finding your voice.

The gift of healing
is offering to listen.

The beginning of healing
is knowing you've been heard.

And the grace of healing
is simply to receive.

No matter the wound

No matter the details

No matter who you are

May all your choices honor
who you really are.

May you speak with the power
of truth and conviction.

May you listen to the whispers
and hear the message of peace.

And may all of Life's blessings
flow into your willing heart.

Thank you for honoring the gift
of my friendship with you.




Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

Woman must not accept; she must challenge.
She must not be awed by that which has been built up around her;
she must reverence that woman in her which struggles for expression.

~ Margaret Sanger ~



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Matthew 9:11-13 (New International Version)

11 When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, "Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and 'sinners'?"

12 On hearing this, Jesus said, "It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick.

13 But go and learn what this means: 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice.'[a] For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners."


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

Stand Up...

Most women who have been abused whether sexually, physically or verbally tend to avoid situations later in life that would allow them to voice their opinion. Big or small, many are afraid of conflict, to stand up for what is right. But there comes a point in each womans life where she has to rise to the occasion.

Do not live your life in fear but stand up and look fear straight in the face. You are strong and equipped to stand up for what you believe in. Don't follow the crowd but pave your own way; be a trailblazer!



The old saying goes if you do not stand for something you will fall for anything. No matter how many times you have stumbled in the past, today is a new day; so stand up and plant you feet in cement! Remember to stand even if it appears you are standing alone; for help will always be sent your way. Whatever your dreams are make it happen, it's time to start believing in yourself because I already do.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Word of The Day...

Matthew 9:20-22 (King James Version)

20And, behold, a woman, which was diseased with an issue of blood twelve years, came behind him, and touched the hem of his garment:

21For she said within herself, If I may but touch his garment, I shall be whole.

22But Jesus turned him about, and when he saw her, he said, Daughter, be of good comfort; thy faith hath made thee whole. And the woman was made whole from that hour.



Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)

E.G.O. Quote of The Day...

Celebrate what you’ve accomplished, but raise the bar a little higher each time you succeed.

-Mia Hamm


Sonja Sells
The EGO Expert™ (Empowering God's Originals)